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Self-love

 


I imagine that we are all born with the ability to love ourselves. However, for most people (women especially, I think), life brings negative messages - from parents, teachers, other people and media in all forms. And even when there are more positive messages than negatives ones, it is the critical and judgmental ones that we internalize. Add in body weight issues that make us self-conscious about our appearance ... and self-love goes out the window!

However, I am learning - through my transformational coach and a variety of other sources - that self-love is key to our weight loss success and to our happiness in general.

Just as self-love can be lost, it can also be found again. At the beginning, you may have to say it (and repeat it often) until you actually start believing it. And if, like me, you just can’t do it on your own, I highly recommend a coach or therapist to help you reach that point.

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